Online dating and arranged marriage
Many people have asked me what it’s like being an American woman married to an Arab man.
Some even ‘warned’ me before making the decision to get married.
If he knew something bothered me or caused me pain, he wouldn’t do it, that simple.
In the bedoin culture men are often viewed as superior to women (by outsiders), but it’s not that way.
For a woman to shed a tear and a man be the cause is shameful. Large family gatherings happened once a year during family reunion time and even that came to an abrupt halt when my grandparents died.
Fortunately my husband does fit comfortably into this part of the culture he appears to have left so far behind. The typical Southern Belle raised as an only child in America. I never had to share anything with anyone — even my space.
He’s actually more Westernized than many ‘city’ Arabs I know.
His English is perfect, he’s been to America and fully understands our mentality, culture, and politics.
Before meeting my husband he was feeling the Arabian pressure of ‘marriage’.Men are actually responsible for a woman — very different than being superior.Not only are they responsible for us financially, but also our emotional well-being.My husband has never asked me to cover my head, my face, hands, or feet.He’s never treated me as anything less than his equal other than when it involves finances.